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Someone recently asked me what my various friends had in common. It took me awhile, but I’ve realized to my delight that the answer is they all like to play. I’m not talking hopscotch or whist of course, nor do I mean simply being funny, although that’s part of it. What I think I mean is an ability to take a sort of open-ended enjoyment in the world as it is or is not or as it might be, and then be able to encourage this quality in others. Inherent in this is a certain generosity and kindness, and enough self-confidence to let yourself appear a little ridiculous. Perhaps it’s just a simple as having a good imagination and not being stingy with it.
My Ideal Person:
I like to think the above somewhat describes me, or who I want to be at least. It’s definitely what I’m looking for. Other good things include: curiousity (intellectual and otherwise), aesthetic engagement, neophilia (and neologophilia for that matter), empathy, and so on and so forth.
An addendum: I have been blessed and cursed with a near complete lack of ambition. Please note that this is not code for unemployed, financially irresponsible, or lazy. And it doesn't mean that there aren't a hundred things that excite and interest me every day. What I mean is that I have essentially no drive to prove myself in this world, to create great works of transformative art, to become any manner of captain of industry. I'd rather spend my time with people that I love, cooking and eating, wandering around and traveling, creating and playing, talking and discussing, falling in love and having sex.
Five items I can't live without
Instead, 5 unrelated 'I' statements:
I miss Beijing bike culture, and the refreshing notion
that instead of being some sort of radical political statement
or dashing lifestyle choice, bike-riding is just another
way to get around.
I feel a definite antipathy towards astrology, and am consistently
amazed by how many people seem to put stock in it. I don't
like the idea of ruling things out, but if you're seriously
into astrology we probably wouldn't get along all
that well.
I believe everyone deserves thought and respect. I also
believe just about everything is funny in the right context.
I see no contradiction between these two things.
I'm friends with most of my exes. It's hard for
me to imagine no longer feeling affection for someone for
whom I once loved.
"I like food, food tastes good!" -- Descendants
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